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Psychology: Why are some people always passive in their relationships?

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Here are a few of them. Did you get a shot:

If others do n’t come to know you, you ’ll never say hello

If someone you know doesn't contact you, you won't take the initiative to find each other.

Even if you quarrel with someone, you will almost never be the one who takes the initiative to make peace.

When you meet someone you love, you become even more passive. Sometimes, even if others have shown it, as long as you haven't made it clear, you will still shrink into your shell like a snail.

Not only in interpersonal life, but also in the workplace and in the workplace, you will neither actively seek opportunities for yourself, nor will you be proactive in resolving contradictions.

This seems to be a very "Buddha" state, but the person concerned may be distressed about his "passive death." Such people do not take the initiative in everything, but they often envy those who take the initiative to fight for what they want and do what they want, but they can't do it themselves.

So, today we talk about the psychology of people who are always passive.

Many times, you do n’t want to be passive, but you do n’t dare to take the initiative

A large number of people who are habitually passive in interpersonal communication are actually afraid to take the initiative. Because: 1. Over-care for others

People who are habitually passive can always “feel strongly about their existence”, which is manifested in the following: they always feel as if they have been “watched”; they feel their actions and actions; Every sentence; there is the illusion of "everyone is watching me" in the crowd.

Because of this, they can easily feel ashamed and embarrassed when dealing with people. Once they take the initiative, the consequent uncertainty and insecurity will keep them suffering at all times-"Did I say something wrong?", "I must look stupid now," "The people are fundamentally Don't want to ignore me "," Why should I take the initiative to lose face "...

Therefore, they are more difficult to let go in front of people, appearing restrained and passive. They believe that as long as they do not initiate, they can avoid the torture of embarrassment and shame. Passive is like a last resort to protect themselves. 2. Excessive or misinterpretation of interpersonal signals

Some passive people may be because they are always inclined to "internal attribution", and attribute some negative external events to themselves. In simple terms, when a bad signal appears in interpersonal interaction, they will think that it is their problem.

For example, if they did n’t get a warm response from the other person when they called up their courage, they would tend to interpret this as "I must be too boring" (instead of "the other party may be busy"), And they will use this to make overall predictions of all similar incidents from now on-"I take the initiative to talk and it is the result of this, others will think I am cheeky like this".

Of course, passive can also be an active choice for some people

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